Living Together

Living together may bring joy but living for ourselves is heaven on earth! We all have one life to live, but not knowing its value, we fight with our family members, friends and make life a hell not only for ourselves and for people around us.

Life is mechanical, from getting up till going to bed, the only mantra which keeps the day going is ‘what next’. If we have time, we while it away by gossips, watching unwanted shows on the idiot box, quarrels and arguments. We love our neighbours and do not want to fight with them but when it comes to family, we are ever ready for an argument.

Even at the age of 60, we do not want to give up our ego, privacy and are ready to stay alone. This in one way is fine that dependency is not created but this can be done amicably without a fight. Just imagine about the youngsters who want to stay with their own families for the same reasons. In fact, they are the ones who need more privacy due to work pressure, financial commitments, etc..

Instead of fighting everyday and making home, a sick place to live, its indeed better to stay apart. At least this way, only the physical distance prevails and peace of mind is not lost.

May be, that’s why we called some countries as “developed”, where people live for their own selves. No hindrances and intrusions whatsoever from any corner. They do not get involved in other’s matters even it be their own life-partners. An imaginary line is always present which would not be crossed. I think we too need to have such a line, otherwise staying together will only increase the gap.

The solution would be being cheerful and happy and to count our blessings.

Nobody is perfect in the world and so mistakes are common. Elders should think about old age homes where so many people are left by their children due to negligence. Children should also value the presence of elders at home.

Both parties should be ready for compromise if staying together is unavoidable. Some of the tips are:

• Never talk unnecessarily
• Do NOT gossip and talk behind the backs
• Do NOT involve in other's personal or Financial commitments
• Have 2 television sets at home
• Reduce spices in cooking
• Reduce the number of visitors – this would improve privacy
• Do NOT expect false respect – like expecting children to enquire about lunch, dinner, etc
• Do NOT find fault
• Increase adaptability

These would add spice to life and living together would be really a dream come true.