Treasure

The guys these days are much matured and they support their partners in everything. Not many of our dads or uncles would have voluntarily come in to the kitchen to help the ladies of the house! But, these days, a girl can rely up on her husband for everything! He prefers her to call him by name which brings in intimacy. She can share anything and everything with her partner, just as she shares with her mom.

Right from the wedding, the guys are sure that their partners should not face any turmoil which their mothers or sisters have faced. They stand as strong as a pillar to support her and stand by her. My hubby told me that he felt a sense of responsibility when he was tying the sacred thread around my neck! The best part was he himself had tied all the 3 knots without giving an opportunity to his sister who was standing behind me!(The groom should tie 2 and leave the last one to his sister) I felt proud at that moment! There is a custom in Tamil wedding that a girl should give her bridegroom betel leaves and nuts and how much ever his tongue reddens, that shows the love he has for his bride! The moment I was told this after lunch, I was eager to see how much it reddens. May be, my guy knew this already, and so he was adding lots of ‘sunnambu’ to his betel leaves and I really felt pity on him!

Guys these days want everything to be set for his wife when she comes home and hence buy almost all essential items such as washing machine, television, etc. She just has to step in and rearrange things, if at all there is a need.

If the couple is staying alone, the guy’s support is there for her ever! Whenever there are guests, he volunteers to help in the kitchen, clean the house and when guests are there, serve them the snacks too. This way, the wife is not left alone in the kitchen. Also, if the wife is working, the guy is even ready to make dinner at times to surprise her and helps her in cleaning the dishes too. Needless to say, it’s the guy who cooks on a Sunday! If it’s a joint family, the story is different. Though, he cannot help her openly, he comes to her help when nobody else is around.

Guys even dare to be with the wife during the delivery and some take the job of taking care of a much demanding new born, so that the wife gets some rest. I know many young dads who responsibly take care of the kids at home. They bring them back from school, give them healthy stuff to eat, play and be with them. Some of them do teach their kids too. If the wife has a fever, the hubby takes leave on the day and takes care of her. If he has to go to work, he calls her once in every hour! He is more affected than her and does whatever he can, for her speedy recovery.

Guys are fun loving by nature and do not take all things in life seriously. But girls are just the opposite! Whenever there is a tensed situation at work or home, I share the same with my hubby who is my counselor too. He immediately eases the situation by cracking a joke. Guys do spend more than the girls and its always better to keep a watch on their wallets J

It is not that girls alone sacrifice much for their husbands; even the guys do the same but, this is not brought out often. Also, they do not share each and everything with the wife, fearing that she might worry unnecessarily. Also, most of the guys are inexpressive and do not have the patience to send in a sms, mail, a card or anything which gives scope for misunderstanding.

This article is a tribute to all the loving husbands who are sharing every inch of pain and pleasure with their wives. Such husbands are to be treasured for ever!