Giving her All

Life becomes so depressing for these women who give their all to their spouse and kids. Each day dawns with loads of tasks and household chores. They think day in and day out about the kids and spouse and forget even what they liked when they were in their 20’s!

Morning starts with preparing coffee and other health drinks for kids, preparing their breakfast and lunch, packing them up and sending them off to school and office. They even gulp down their coffee without enjoying it! Next comes up the cleaning, sweeping and other tasks at home. She then washes clothes and cleans vessels and has her lunch. It now becomes 2 and she has to plan for the evening snacks for the kids who would come home hungry. By 3, shes ready to welcome them back and gives them their snack and boost.

The next thing on her slot is to help them in their homework or project and then plan for dinner. The cycle again starts to feed dinner to the family members, cleaning vessels, wiping of the kitchen slab, planning for next day’s breakfast and retiring for the night.

Hubby or the children do not appreciate her work but are ready to complain if anything is out of the usual. They become so dependent on her that they cant let her take a break from any of these tasks. 

Actually, these women pamper the kids and spouse and spoil them! Nobody comes to her help even when the need arises! By doing these routine tasks, a stage comes when she feels tired both mentally and physically. She needs a leaning shoulder and a listening ear to share.

Being busy in everyday life, she stays in her own shell and refuses to come out of it. She thinks it as a mistake to think beyond her family! If she reads a novel, she can afford only 30 minutes as the next task comes to her mind. She finds herself guilty when she joins in some classes to pass away the time.

As the years go on, she suddenly feels that she is unwanted since kids and the spouse have nothing more to share with her other than their demands for lunch and dinner! Come festivals, everyone is busy in the living room watching their favorite shows on the television but she alone is slogging in the kitchen.  

 Health gives her troubles too but she still cannot afford to take a break from the routine work. If she doesn’t do the work at home, nobody else will and again she has to do all the accumulated work.

Though there are many women who have domestic help, women like the above are also present in today’s world! They take every comment to their heart and work sincerely for the sake of their family.

These women can share their work with the spouse and kids. They can let the children do the small tasks like fetching the dry clothes, filling water in the bottles, etc. let the spouse cook on a weekend and there is absolutely nothing wrong in that! Now, don’t barge into the kitchen correcting him. Its ok if the salt or chilli powder is little more or less for a day. Let them know the value of mother’s cooking!

Go on outings with the family to a picnic spot or some quiet get away. The rules of the game are no food again and hence no cooking! Everything can be arranged on the way or in the picnic spot! Give yourself little breaks as this and pamper yourself. If you don’t pamper yourself, who else will?

I thank my co-sister for giving me the spark to write this article.

We, as women would have seen many of our fellow women undergoing all this and I would like to tell them to take rest and live for themselves, for nothing would change in the world if they do so and life would be enjoyable! Else, at the age of 40, they would regret for not living life as they wanted.

Its one life and lets live as we like it!