The Untold Story

So many guys today, feel why they ever got married! They feel they would have been happy living single, spending for themselves and roaming carelessly with friends. Many of them feel, the need for marriage will slowly die down in the coming years and every one will stay happily alone!

Marriage is not just tying a thread and bringing a girl home, it involves a lot of relationship complications! Unfortunately, no book ever has the lessons to teach us the lessons and its all trial and error. By the time, we learn, half of the life time vanishes in front of our eyes!

The guys want to support their wives and at the same time, not to give up on parents. It really is a very tough job and hats off to all those guys who are doing it successfully. The truth is more than 70% of the guys are failures in this and the remaining ones are smart and lucky to have walked on the rope in mid air!

Any issue faced between the wife and mom, boomerangs to him! It’s his problem now to solve it for her, actually for himself to live in peace. He feels even a drum has just 2 sides to get the beatings but he gets it from all corners, his parents, spouse, siblings, in-laws and other relatives!

We have heard or seen so many stories faced by the girls post marriage but the ones faced by the guys are always untold! They are also poor creatures, to take up everything bravely and they can’t even cry as they are guys! Issues faced post love marriages are more when compared to arranged marriages because this was his choice, entirely!

As a son and brother, the guy would have been under different light and after wedding; this goes in for a change. Of course, he still is the son and the brother but he has a family of his own, his time needs to be shared first between his work, spouse and kids and then only comes the others. He has to support his parents and siblings in time of need and as a son-in-law, he has more to be shared on his shoulders!

Transparency with the spouse is a big lesson that will solve so many problems. Life can be faced together if the guy feels that there’s someone back home always for him. The other relationship issues need experiences to tackle. Not everybody need to take classes as to how to do this or that! Their brilliance can be shown in their own lives and no free advice is required.

There is a thin line present in all the relationships, irrespective of how close it is. It’s safe to have that line intact and if that is crossed, life becomes an unending puzzle with trips to family court, ending in divorce or constantly explaining ourselves to somebody else, all through the life giving room for self-hatred and strained relationships!