Cold War

            What is that it prevents us in determination to talk to our own children, relatives and friends even if they have done something against us? We give more importance to ‘what others might think if I go now and talk to the person leaving all my self-respect that I have safeguarded all these years’, etc… Who are those ‘others’? What are they going to do for us?

I tell you, nothing will happen and you will sleep better!      

Which is better? Having your loved ones near you when you are unwell or lying all alone in the hospital bed? I tell you, you won’t even feel like eating that stale bread they give, out of the mental agony!

            There are many instances of this ‘cold war’ inside the families, today! Parents not talking to children because they married someone of their choice, brothers and sisters not talking to one another due to settlement of assets, sister not talking to her brother’s wife since she didn’t get a better sari in some occasion, mother-in-law not talking to the daughter-in-law since she didn’t ask what’s to be made for lunch, husband not talking to wife for some fight they had 20 years back, etc…

Where are we? What will we achieve by accumulating the vengeance inside us? This anger will keep increasing day by day and one day, it will make us sick! Even if someone makes very small mistakes, we will tend to think if they did it wantedly, we will get frustrated even at silliest disappointments and don’t feel like doing anything happily! People will maintain distance since they would be scared to talk as they don’t know how it will be received!

Its ok yar, everybody makes mistakes! It will be difficult to digest initially, but as the days go by, you will feel proud of yourself for taking such wise decisions in life. Forgiving will actually reduce our own loads and we will feel light. Nobody will take you for granted or think you as a doormat to step on; rather, they will try to learn from you!

Already, everyone is occupied in their own busy lives today and these kinds of gaps will make the relationships forgotten. That is why; many of us do not know all our relatives! Either we don’t get time to attend the family functions or even if we have time, we don’t attend these functions due to such fights! We miss being with them when they are alive and end up seeing them only in photographs! 

The characters in the TV serials are NOT real! Yet, we feel for them. We feel bad if Gopi bahu and Akshara are ill treated. They get paid for that glycerin used and the “simple” costumes they use even when they make only rotis or chai in the hot kitchen!

What about the ones in our own lives? They are just a phone call away! Leave that bloody ego, call them up, talk to them and renew the relationships! We cannot be genuinely angry on anyone for a long time, if we really love them! The disappointment they caused will be huge but it wouldn’t matter if the person matters more than it!

What’s more? We can leave this world, in a better state of mind!