I jus read something very disturbing in fb..
since parents asked the kids to study all the time, kids see no attachment to parents now. They live in foreign countries with their respective families and don't come to visit parents. Even if they come,they're unable to spend more than 5 days. The parents cannot travel due to their health issues. when asked, the son replied I don't see any attachment to this city and to parents too. all dat I can remember is they always told us to study! even now they say I shouldn't spend more money on books,travel, etc..only after coming to the US I came to know what life is about..enjoyment, travel, music,etc..
These are my Two cents:
Our parents's generation didn't earn like what we're earning today and they all believed life would be good only if children study. They didn't want us to face what they faced. That's the whole point they focussed upon. They spent all their time and money on us. I do accept some parents overdid it,fearing the future.
We are a parasitic generation of having sucked their sweat n blood and now coolly say we're not emotionally attached to them!
what if they didn't tell u the importance of education? what if they didn't apply to that qualifying examination, you wouldn't have been in the US and enjoying in the first place!
secondly, its OK if they lecture you on not spending money. take it or leave it,that's your choice. But not visiting them or visited and yet not talking to them are sadistic punishments! they don't deserve it. Especially, the loneliness.
If you aren't comfortable staying in your native,take them out to some resort and show them what pleasures they wouldn't have enjoyed. Many Fathers accepted the transferable jobs and moved out of family so that the children's education isn't spoiled. Many mothers could use the auto wherever they went but saved every penny for their children like you and me.
It's OK if they asked you to study all the time. Now show them what festivals are like and let them spend time with the grandchildren. We can forgive them and let go of those hard feelings!
Living in a better environment now, we'll not bring up our kids like our parents. We would let our kids have fun too. After all,its a matter of 21 days in two years that you could give them back for all the 21 years they have given their all.
since parents asked the kids to study all the time, kids see no attachment to parents now. They live in foreign countries with their respective families and don't come to visit parents. Even if they come,they're unable to spend more than 5 days. The parents cannot travel due to their health issues. when asked, the son replied I don't see any attachment to this city and to parents too. all dat I can remember is they always told us to study! even now they say I shouldn't spend more money on books,travel, etc..only after coming to the US I came to know what life is about..enjoyment, travel, music,etc..
These are my Two cents:
Our parents's generation didn't earn like what we're earning today and they all believed life would be good only if children study. They didn't want us to face what they faced. That's the whole point they focussed upon. They spent all their time and money on us. I do accept some parents overdid it,fearing the future.
We are a parasitic generation of having sucked their sweat n blood and now coolly say we're not emotionally attached to them!
what if they didn't tell u the importance of education? what if they didn't apply to that qualifying examination, you wouldn't have been in the US and enjoying in the first place!
secondly, its OK if they lecture you on not spending money. take it or leave it,that's your choice. But not visiting them or visited and yet not talking to them are sadistic punishments! they don't deserve it. Especially, the loneliness.
If you aren't comfortable staying in your native,take them out to some resort and show them what pleasures they wouldn't have enjoyed. Many Fathers accepted the transferable jobs and moved out of family so that the children's education isn't spoiled. Many mothers could use the auto wherever they went but saved every penny for their children like you and me.
It's OK if they asked you to study all the time. Now show them what festivals are like and let them spend time with the grandchildren. We can forgive them and let go of those hard feelings!
Living in a better environment now, we'll not bring up our kids like our parents. We would let our kids have fun too. After all,its a matter of 21 days in two years that you could give them back for all the 21 years they have given their all.
Our kids are observing us that we spend Just five days with parents once in two years. What if they do the same to us in future? How will we feel?
Well saaid vishnum its true that many parents suffer in old age But still there are many who encourage sometimes even force their kids to settle abroad. Everyone must understand its effects.
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