What happened in class today?!
This is the first message I see everyday at 3pm in my kids whatsapp groups. I wonder why the Mothers, these days, are so obsessed.
Someone said can someone share today's notes? I'm actually at a loss of words, for the child is studying in first standard and not in college! Immediately there's loads of photos of kids classwork, calendar, etc..again the pressure continues.. My son hasn't written this, my son's notebook is not there, etc.. I too made this mistake that my son lost his notebook and later on realised that this is not how to handle!
I explained to him that he must be careful enough to count and bring them back and it will be huge work to copy everything into his classwork if notebook gets lost!
So what, if something is missed? Won't they learn to do it the next time or the next day? The message will dig deeper when the teacher says it!
I just sympathise with working mothers. What pressure will they undergo when they see these messages! It would be 7pm when the suspense is revealed to them!
As far as some others, school work can be started only after 6-630, ie, the classes after school, be it drawing or singing or anything!
I'm at guilt when I tell my son to sleep at 830-9 just because he has to wake up at 6am the next morning! I don't know what I'm pushing and what impact it will have on him!
When we went to school, my mom was working and I don't remember her even asking my friend's mom or for that matter, she didn't even know them!
We were given practical lessons to be responsible and she would just ask if my homework is done! It was my part to keep my bag ready, my uniform and shoes ready from the age of 6. If any notebook is missed at home, she would take it light and say you must have checked! When you copy from rough note to the classwork, remind yourself why it happened and the incident never repeated. That's how we learnt!
I remember washing my canvas shoes at the age of 8 and dry it in the sun. Dad would show how to polish and I had to complete the task! Nobody spoon fed us. I feed them both every morning just because we have the acute water problem but feel bad about it!
We should stop this cocoon parenting for it will harm kids! They think they can do only if mom is next to them! Agreed it will take time to become a butterfly and so let's give them that. Mistakes will happen and as far as they learn from them, we shouldn't hold them.
Let us leave them free for sometime and see if they can handle. Actually they will handle better than we think! Let them come to us for help but only after trying! Don't be the cushion all the time, the cushion keeps getting heavier as they grow.
When two moms meet, the second topic is school work! Just as experts say, don't compare the kids, even two moms cannot be. It will all be fine in the end, if its not yet, we will learn on the way!
Brushing, dressing up by themselves, eating, bathing and cleaning up, learn to organise etc all take a precedence. Rest of the things can be learnt if this basic set of rules are got right!
Let them carry their bags and baskets and let's not make them feel like a prince or princess with the mom carrying the burden! Let's teach them if they are able to walk with their bags to the classes, they will be able to carry too!
Kids will shine by themselves if this confidence is achieved. Our job is to stand beside them and ensure all is well!
--Vishnupriya
This is the first message I see everyday at 3pm in my kids whatsapp groups. I wonder why the Mothers, these days, are so obsessed.
Someone said can someone share today's notes? I'm actually at a loss of words, for the child is studying in first standard and not in college! Immediately there's loads of photos of kids classwork, calendar, etc..again the pressure continues.. My son hasn't written this, my son's notebook is not there, etc.. I too made this mistake that my son lost his notebook and later on realised that this is not how to handle!
I explained to him that he must be careful enough to count and bring them back and it will be huge work to copy everything into his classwork if notebook gets lost!
So what, if something is missed? Won't they learn to do it the next time or the next day? The message will dig deeper when the teacher says it!
I just sympathise with working mothers. What pressure will they undergo when they see these messages! It would be 7pm when the suspense is revealed to them!
As far as some others, school work can be started only after 6-630, ie, the classes after school, be it drawing or singing or anything!
I'm at guilt when I tell my son to sleep at 830-9 just because he has to wake up at 6am the next morning! I don't know what I'm pushing and what impact it will have on him!
When we went to school, my mom was working and I don't remember her even asking my friend's mom or for that matter, she didn't even know them!
We were given practical lessons to be responsible and she would just ask if my homework is done! It was my part to keep my bag ready, my uniform and shoes ready from the age of 6. If any notebook is missed at home, she would take it light and say you must have checked! When you copy from rough note to the classwork, remind yourself why it happened and the incident never repeated. That's how we learnt!
I remember washing my canvas shoes at the age of 8 and dry it in the sun. Dad would show how to polish and I had to complete the task! Nobody spoon fed us. I feed them both every morning just because we have the acute water problem but feel bad about it!
We should stop this cocoon parenting for it will harm kids! They think they can do only if mom is next to them! Agreed it will take time to become a butterfly and so let's give them that. Mistakes will happen and as far as they learn from them, we shouldn't hold them.
Let us leave them free for sometime and see if they can handle. Actually they will handle better than we think! Let them come to us for help but only after trying! Don't be the cushion all the time, the cushion keeps getting heavier as they grow.
When two moms meet, the second topic is school work! Just as experts say, don't compare the kids, even two moms cannot be. It will all be fine in the end, if its not yet, we will learn on the way!
Brushing, dressing up by themselves, eating, bathing and cleaning up, learn to organise etc all take a precedence. Rest of the things can be learnt if this basic set of rules are got right!
Let them carry their bags and baskets and let's not make them feel like a prince or princess with the mom carrying the burden! Let's teach them if they are able to walk with their bags to the classes, they will be able to carry too!
Kids will shine by themselves if this confidence is achieved. Our job is to stand beside them and ensure all is well!
--Vishnupriya
Superb..what u said is exact happening in all the houses...we didn't brought up in that way..
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