When son became the daughter in law!

 

When son became the daughter in law!

When Ram had a ritual at home on the occasion of Navaratri, his sisters and brothers and mother came over. Ram lives with Shreya and their daughter Ria. Ram had to discuss with Shreya that this year was their turn to host!

Initially Shreya was doubtful if she could really manage as they had missed the previous years get togethers due to office work and were in a different city. Ram assured that he will help her.

He has two sisters and two brothers. so totally it was 15 people!

Food was made at home. Ram chopped the vegetables and helped clean the house. Since the number of people are more, Shreya usually gets scared to cook! She quickly managed to make dal, curry, sambar, rasam, payasam and vada. Sweets were got from outside.

The kids watched tv or mobile and nobody actually socialised. The elders were talking about other relatives, weddings and other functions that happened or coming up.

His mom and sisters kept giving Ram, instructions and was pointing this was not done this way, the lamp needs to be lighted with multiple wicks, etc.. At one point, Shreya sympathised with him and came near him and told this is the moment the son has become the daughter in law!

You just move and I will take care. Ram was relieved. He couldn’t talk back but Shreya would cut things straight. Even Ria came and told her mom that her aunt and grand mom were commenting about her eating. Shreya calmed her and said, its okay, just eat.

After the puja and the lunch, everybody was tired. All had coffee or tea and one by one left with return gifts. After all left, the house became home again. As food was left, some was taken by whoever wanted for dinner and Shreya was more than happy to give. She then made rice and rasam and closed the day early.

Though these kind of get togethers are needed to stay connected, its not necessary to do these out of compulsion or formality. If we are not comfortable, its fine to stay out of it. Even kids are so sensitive these days that they cannot accept criticism. We get holidays like these rarely and it is important that everyone gets their space.  

Its more important that the husband and the wife stay connected first! Because these get togethers also become a reason for divorces! Peace is the utmost goal.