Musings on Parenting!

I’m happy to be back with my comp after almost 2 years! I used to spend solitary time pouring out my thoughts to my blog. After becoming a mother, the rarest commodity in the world is time! That too, now am a mother of twins, toddlers now! This is the best write up for my come back.. 

Parenting is a sea in itself and it has taught many lessons. My partner and me have lost “our time” but have got the family time as a replacement! That’s what we were waiting for, after all. I am just sharing some valuable lessons we have learnt in this post, the musings... 

1.      Sleep in whatever position you are

Learn to sleep sitting, leaning on the wall, etc... The initial days with the new born babies are the worst! You have to be up the whole night cos one after another thing will come up. So sleep even if it means having the baby on the lap. We are doing this even at 15 months because they sleep only by 12-1am in the night and get up once in the middle for milk! 

2.      Eat when time permits

Cook a simple meal, really a simple one. Kids will come running to you and need you at all times. If you disappear, they will become restless and start wailing. So cook all that when they are asleep (this is tough as you have to sleep only when they sleep) or just make one dish other than what you cook for them and more importantly, eat it. Otherwise we will end up having gas and shout at them for all small things since we are hungry and we cannot take it anymore! There have been days when we had dinner at 12 in the night!! Have more vegetables and water. 

3.      Expect everything

Think 4 steps ahead of them. If they grab the remote when you are trying to watch the news, remove the battery from it and give it back to them! When they go near the water bottle, empty the water, tighten the lid and give it back. When they get in to kitchen, close the door before they enter and secure it. Close the office comp and keep it out of their reach. Anything, hangers, ladles, spoons, cups, nail cutters, you name it and they will have it in their hands! Empty all the shelves they can lay their hands on.   

4.      Be alert and stay fit!

If you were enjoying all those lazing out days, time has come for THE END. You have to now be at constant vigil 24/7*365. They will walk on bed, run on it and tense you as if they are going to fall off! Sometimes, they do but mostly don’t. You should be able to get up in a jiffy after you hear a single moan even if its 2am! You should be sharp enough to listen to their foot steps if you are in another room and come running before anything happens. Anklets really help! Weekends are worse! They know dads at home and that means more fun! So you can’t even dream of taking rest and you will go to office happily on Monday mornings! 

5.      This is everyone’s story!

The biggest relief is you are not alone! Every parent says so. My child doesn’t sleep in the day, in the nights, doesn’t eat what I give, throws up tantrums, needs all gadgets, keeps me worrying at all times! Call up friends and share your experiences. They might have crossed the bridge just last night and might be able to help.

Kids will never do what we think. If you think they will not take the TV remote, at the same moment, they will bang on the TV with the remote, tear the newspapers, books. House will be in constant chaos. Nothing will be organized and if you want to go out, you need to search for a dupatta or mobile or even your bag and should escape quietly! If you want them to say Amma or appa...they simply won’t! Don’t ask them to and they will keep on repeating on their own accord! 

Every stage in parenting poses its own challenges and if someone tells you all will be great once they start schooling, just give a big smile! Find time to do what you love everyday even if its just a few minutes as it would energize you and stop you from stressing out.